Subject: Jen wellness update #46 (19Jan01) Golden Gate Bridge
reactions to this update may well split across trans-Atlantic lines; mawkish from the land of Charles Dickens, and schmaltzy from the land of Oprah Winfrey. However, amidst this almost unrelenting pain, life affirming moments can and do still happen.
On January 1st, 2000 Jen and I walked half-way across the Golden Gate
span. It was a cold, clear day and Jen had to be cajoled out of the house.
Luckily my enthusiasm for the Gate is genuine, otherwise Jen might have guessed
my hidden agenda. Despite her advanced psychic people skills she was
completely gob-smacked when I proposed to her as we stood overlooking
Alcatraz. Later that day, as I wrestled the phone from her, she was
mystified that I should insist that she *didn't* immediately call Jane
& Larry. "Let's just enjoy this between ourselves for a little
Although Jen cracked after a fortnight, she said that she treasured the keeping of the secret between us .... Jane is still miffed with me: "My own daughter, and you didn't tell us you got engaged".
January 2001. Yesterday dawned cold and foggy, but by noon it was T-shirt weather. So we persuaded Jen to take her first breath of air since last week's crisis. We took a family trip to the bridge. Thank goodness for the Americans with Disabilities Act: there's wheelchair access from the bridge overlook right onto the span.
Jen took a wheelchair and we all perambulated half way across the Bridge. It was a spectacular afternoon: low angle sunlight, zero wind, the bay, SF downtown and Alcatraz on one side, setting sun over the open Pacific on the other. Jane & Larry found it a difficult venture, but Jen & I wholeheartedly enjoyed it.
One of Jane & Larry's surrogate children, Naomi the photographer, came too, and so I can send some portraits after this update.
I don't know how many elevating times like this there will be in the coming weeks. But I'll try to stay alert to possibilities, and grab them *now* when they happen.
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